Women want what they do not want, and love what they hate.
Men understand what they want in love, sex, and romance, and act to attain it in a way that seems to them realistically likely to attain it. There is a straightforward connection between desire, intent, and action.
Women are not like that, and consent culture has imposed upon them an insoluble task to which they were not exposed to in the ancestral environment of evolutionary adaptation. They face a problem that lacks a rational solution, and their response to it is, unsurprisingly, deeply irrational.
Miss Average wants to be loved and cared for my mister one in thirty, by the six foot six billionaire athlete vampire King, and proceeds to act in ways that make it unlikely that anyone will ever love her except her cats, that no one will ever care for her, and that she will die alone and be eaten by her cats.
Some of them panic at age thirty or forty, and proceed to condescend to reluctantly marry mister average, who is fifty years old and involuntarily celibate up till now, but by that time, her eggs and her womb have probably dried up.
And when parents and uncles tell their rapidly ageing daughters and nieces that they should get their act together, it is totally and completely ineffective. They get really really angry on being advised.
Women complain men are not willing to commit, not even willing to approach. Meaning mister one in thirty is not willing to commit to miss average, and mister average is not going to approach miss average, because he will probably be charged with sexual harassment, rape and assault. Women just do not like low status males around, any more than they want rats and cockroaches around.
Obviously women are happiest staying at home cooking, cleaning, serving and obeying their husband. But, in the event that the six foot six billionaire vampire King should fall madly in love with him, have absolutely no intention of cooking, cleaning, serving, and obeying him. They will, off the bat, make entirely unreasonable demands.
Of course these demands are merely a shit test, what they actually hope for is to be smacked and handed a mop. But they are unaware of hoping for this.
Of course we all know that in matters of love and sex, what females intend, and what they believe that they want, have little connection to actual female conduct. “It just happened”. It is all a shit test. But this shit test is preventing successful family formation and reproduction.
There are a number of obstacles to reproduction.
1. Defect/Defect equilibrium. It is in both party’s interest to defect on their partner before they get defected on. It is a woman’s reproductive interest to be in a situation where she cannot defect, thus human females reproduce most successfully as property, men least successfully as property. Notice the tendency of female romances to be set in magical worlds where the main female character is excused from the inconvenience of consent. We all, male and female, long for the ancestral environment of successful reproduction.
2. Women have an absurdly inflated idea of the their value as a wife or a long term partner, because it is easy for them to get semen from a high value man.
3. Women have absurdly inflated idea of their value as a relationship partner, because they delude themselves that they are in a relationship, when they are merely somewhere near the bottom of a long booty call list.
4. Even if a woman has an accurate idea of her value as a relationship partner, it is still female nature to avoid being with low value men, meaning men of value similar to herself, and try to be with high value men. If a women does this, despite having an accurate idea of her value as a relationship partner, then she is a filthy trash slut, as women tend to be unless forcefully restrained by a man with a stick, and since she does not want to think of herself as a filthy trash slut, she cultivates an inflated view of her own value to protect herself from the knowledge that she is a filthy trash slut.
5. Women don’t think they have to bring anything to a relationship except themselves, because they don’t have to bring anything to a booty call except themselves. If they hope to be loved, cared for, and looked after, they need to start by cleaning the man’s house, picking up his clothes, doing the laundry, and cooking a nice meal. Of course a chick is, in practice, never going to do that on her own initiative, because she subconsciously hopes to be made to do that. But because we men tend to be oblivious, we tend not to command until the amount of trash on the floor makes it difficult to move around, we have no clothes left that do not stink, and strange fungi are growing on the unwashed dishes. If a man is looking for a relationship, he needs to command service. If a woman is looking for a relationship, not much she can do except inject herself into situations where service is likely to be commanded, or else somehow overcome the natural female propensity to shit test by cooking, cleaning, and tidying up on her own initiative. There have been a few occasions, not often, where women have just shown up on my doorstep and just got on with sex, cooking, cleaning, and tidying up. Worked on me because I am just lazy and most men are just lazy. But it is much more in accordance with female nature and the mating dance for the man to drag her to his lair and put her to work, and women much prefer this to having to arrive under their own power. In the ancestral environment of successful reproduction, being dragged to the man’s lair and compelled to serve looks a lot more like permanent security suitable for raising children than just showing up under her own power. If the man dragged her there, he probably will not let her go.
“And when parents and uncles tell their rapidly ageing daughters and nieces that they should get their act together, it is totally and completely ineffective.”
Indeed, but is there anything that could be said to daughters and nieces that would be effective?
Arrange meetings where she gets to dance with men you’ve preapproved as suitable future husbands.